Honoring your parentsBro. David Chancellor
6/18/2006 11:00 AM
Fathers are important. Thirty to forty years ago, some said that fathers were irrelevant, but time has proved that children need both mothers and fathers. Dads add that extra firmness that is needed. Many children are being brought up without a dad, and they are suffering for it. The message today is for the children. Dads do something for their children and we need to appreciate what they’ve brought to us. Our parents have given us something that doesn’t end when we become adults if we’re willing to have it.
If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear.
This brings new meaning to punishment. The scripture that says, “Honor thy father and mother,” often brings to mind the little ones. This scripture is about a grown child who isn’t honoring his parents. He wasn’t listening to his parents or giving anything back. Honor involves giving back.
Children should grow up and be independent, but this doesn’t mean that your parents no longer have anything to offer you. At this point in life, admonition is hard to take, but it can help you. Just because you’re old enough to make some decisions doesn’t mean you have loads of experience. The benefit of the experiences of the older ones is still good for you.
Parents try to raise children such not to bring them to this place. We all, at times, need to hear the voice of chastening and correction. We need admonition to help us to avoid the bumps in the road. The experience of those in the past can still apply to us today. Your parents still have something to offer you that you can use and benefit from. If you listen, you could be spared some troubles.
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
It’s good to honor your parents. This also includes a promise. There is a benefit to be gained by the one that honors his parents. The rebellious child’s life has a lot of troubles. We can avoid some troubles by listening to the ones that went ahead of us. Parents teach this to make your life easier. The godly parents will teach this, but even unsaved parents can point out pitfalls to their children.
It is good for all of us to have peers. Often these are people our age. Take some time and seek out the ones who have been down the road a ways. Get to know the older saints. Talk to someone that has some experience. They’ll likely reinforce what your parents have told you. Appreciate the advice and admonition and experience that your parents give. It can make your life better and blessed. You can be spared some difficulties if you’ll just listen to the advice of the ones who have already been there.
But he answered and said unto them, Why do ye also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition? For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death. But ye say, Whosoever shall say to his father or his mother, It is a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me; And honour not his father or his mother, he shall be free. Thus have ye made the commandment of God of none effect by your tradition.
Jesus was correcting these because of their traditions. They were teaching people that it didn’t really matter if they obeyed what God said. Under the old law, the children were to take care of the parents when they got old. These were saying, “Well, what I was supposed to give you, I gave to God. Go get it from him.” God didn’t accept this. God would have us respect our parents and accept advice from them. We should appreciate our parents. God has some expectations of you in regard to your parents. He would have you to treat them respectfully. As you become an adult, take care of your attitude. Take on your responsibility, but listen to the advice your parents give. Keep a good relationship with your parents. Your parents are trying to give you a long life and good days. Appreciate their admonition. Don’t let the devil put something between you and them. Honor your parents.