Love Your Neighbor (Etiquette)Bro. David Chancellor
12/18/2005 11:00 AM
But when the Pharisees had heard that he had put the Sadducees to silence, they were gathered together. Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, saying, Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.
Jesus addressed the issue of the law by bringing it down to love. If you get things right with God and love him as you should, then you will get things right with others and love them as yourself.
And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them. And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same.
Love will do good to everyone, even those that don’t love back. Love is more than “a warm fuzzy feeling.” This scripture contains the Golden Rule. Treat everyone else like you would like to be treated. We want to do good to others, but we need to stop and think about what others view as good.
Our society has a tendency to throw formality aside, and this is okay to a point. It does matter that we learn how to behave around others. Etiquette is all about treating others as we would be treated. Companies often give classes to their employees on how to interact with others. They want their people to leave a positive reaction with their customers. If we apply the Golden Rule to our interactions, our interactions will be positive and beneficial.
Then saith he to his servants, The wedding is ready, but they which were bidden were not worthy. Go ye therefore into the highways, and as many as ye shall find, bid to the marriage. So those servants went out into the highways, and gathered together all as many as they found, both bad and good: and the wedding was furnished with guests. And when the king came in to see the guests, he saw there a man which had not on a wedding garment: And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless.
This refers to how the ones Jesus came to didn’t want what he had, and how he then gave it to all mankind. There are things that are appropriate and things that are not. There are ways to dress appropriately and ways that are inappropriate. You wouldn’t wear greasy coveralls to a wedding; that wouldn’t be honorable to the wedding. Commander Man would great foreign dignitaries in patched pants. It was a way that he used to show disrespect. When we come to church, we should come dressed decently, in neat, clean clothes. We should come dressed to show respect. Our clothes do matter, but by themselves, they don’t make us. The way we dress reveals our attitude.
And he put forth a parable to those which were bidden, when he marked how they chose out the chief rooms; saying unto them. When thou art bidden of any man to a wedding, sit not down in the highest room; lest a more honourable man than thou be bidden of him; and he that bade thee and him come and say to thee, Give this man place; and thou begin with shame to take the lowest room. But when thou art bidden, go and sit down in the lowest room; that when he that bade thee cometh, he may say unto thee, Friend, go up higher: then shalt thou have worship in the presence of them that sit at meat with thee. For whosoever exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.
There is a message here on humility, but also on practical etiquette. The low place is often more comfortable. Seek out the low place. This shows respect for other people. If you’re the one putting on the occasion, remember “the best for the guest.” Take care of others first. The disciples had come looking for the first place. Jesus was trying to help them to see the importance of humility. Serve the guests first and concern yourself about yourself later.
1 Corinthians 14:26-33
How is it then, brethren? When ye come together, every one of you hath a psalm, hath a doctrine, hath a tongue, hath a revelation, hath an interpretation. Let all things be done unto edifying. If any man speak in an unknown tongue, let it be by two, or at the most by three, and that by course; and let one interpret. But if there be no interpreter, let him keep silence in the church; and let him speak to himself, and to God. Let the prophets speak two or three, and let the other judge. If any thing be revealed to another that sitteth by, let the first hold his peace. For ye may all prophecy one by one, that all may learn, and all may be comforted. And the spirits of the prophets are subject to the prophets. For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all church of the saints.
Did you come to see, or to be seen; to hear, or to be heard? Kids tend to try to be the center of attention; to be seen, heard, and noticed. We come to see and hear, not to be seen and heard. Etiquette teaches you how to listen. We don’t always need to speak. Our focus should be on the benefit of others. Your point doesn’t have to be heard. We need to control our spirit. When you focus on others, you will be a blessing to them.
1 Thessalonians 4:9-11
But as touching brotherly love ye need not that I write unto you: for ye yourselves are taught of God to love one another. And indeed ye do it toward all the brethren which are in all Macedonia, but we beseech you, brethren, that ye increase more and more; And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;
Paul commended their love, but he also encouraged them to help it increase and better to learn how to show it. Etiquette will help you to know when to quit. It will help you stop before you become a trial. Our goal is to enjoy each other’s company, not to hurt one another.
1 Corinthians 7:1
Now concerning things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
There are some boundaries that need to exist. It is perfectly respectful for a man to shake a woman’s hand, but hugging isn’t respectful. Keep your interactions with others respectful. Love will cause you to maintain a right relationship with those around you. It matters how we interact with others.
1 Corinthians 11:17-18
Now in this that I declare unto you I praise you not, that ye come together not for the better, but for the worse. For first of all, when ye come together in the church, I hear that there be divisions among you, and I partly believe it.
Paul was concerned about these. We maintain our relationships by how we treat one another when we are together. Love is about how we treat others and what we do for them to show we care. Everyone likes to be considered, to be heard, and to be treated well. Love causes you to do good for those about you.