Fathers and ChildrenBro. David Chancellor
6/20/1999 11:00 AM
Starts out admonishing the children "Honor your father and mother." Christ is our example in all things.
Children between the ages of 12 and 20 generally think that their parents don't know anything. Jesus at this age was astounding the doctors of the law, but he went home and was subject to his parents anyhow. Jesus knew enough that he could have been the teacher, but he honored Joseph and Mary anyway. He was still in Joseph's home and was subject while he was there. Obey the rules; follow what's required, plus some at home.
Jesus was looking out for his mother even when he was on the cross. Start looking out for your parents. Think about what you can do for your parents, and be subject to them.
This does not mean always seek to please the children or a lack of correction. The thought is, be consistent. Have a reason for what you are doing. Don't drive your children to exasperation. Don't be continually changing. Be predictable. Let them know what to expect. Don't let them down. Let them know where the limits are. If you need to change, change. Don't be wavering. If a child is wrong, they need to be set right.
Same thought as Eph. 6:4 - that they be not discouraged. Inconsistency and unpredictability produce a resentful attitude.
"Bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." Nurture: feeding, training, chastening and discipline OF THE LORD. You want to bring children higher than depravity. Children left to themselves bring shame. Lift them up in the discipline of the Lord. Admonition: calling attention to, mild rebuke, warning. You are trying to teach children what is right. The goal is to bring up children to be a child of God. Children need the teaching that they are going to have to have to stand before God someday. There's a reverence needed for God. It needs to be taught at home as well as at church. They need to get something out of it. One of the problems today is children don't have the focus or attention span to stick with something. We come together to reverence God, worship him, and receive instruction for our souls. There needs to be some discipline, reverence and upbringing. Proverbs was the training manual for Solomon's sons. (Proverbs 10:1) A wise son makes a glad father. (Proverbs 13:1) A wise son hears his father's instruction. Give instruction pass some things on. Point them to God. God has given us each responsibilities and we want to be faithful to that. Fathers, you helped bring them here, do everything you can to make them turn out well and come to God.