The Role a Woman Plays in the HomeBro. David Chancellor
5/9/2010 11:00 AM
1 Timothy 5:11-15
But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry; Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith. And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan.
The woman’s role is important to the prosperity of the home. "But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry; Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith." Marriage is honorable and in order. Society is best built on strong marriages, but faith in God is most important. Marriage where God is first is a blessing to all that live in that home.
"And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not." This is not a desired role in life. Find something better for your time. Godly women have plenty to do in life. How we live at home can bring either honor or dishonor on the cause of God. There is a responsibility in the home for the wife in the guiding of the home. She is to rule the household. Someone has to make the house a home. It is hers to manage and run. Home happens through the interactions of the people there.
Children need care and attention. Mothers should be there to care for them and prepare them for the life ahead. She takes the funds you earn and uses them for the good of the family. She makes it a place where God can be honored.
A good home life can help you to have a good walk with God. A poor life can be a hindrance to serving God. Follow the pattern at home.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion of her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planeteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
This is a "short" rendition of "guide the house." Hers is not an insignificant contribution. "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." There are a lot of marriages that don’t operate this way. The woman should provide for her family. She takes the resources given and uses them to provide. A good home manager can do much with little. She makes a home that’s workable and livable.
She cares beyond her own family. She helps to build society. She helps her husband to be successful. It isn’t idleness when a mother spends time with her kids. Interaction and play isn’t wasted time. It’s time invested in making a home. The role of a wife and mom is not insignificant. A good mother’s life brings praise upon them. Show her your appreciation.
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
We can either build up or tear down. Be a builder. Work to establish good things. It will take work on your part. Society pays when homes are torn apart. The mother is the one who works most to make the house a home. We need builders. A home without God is a home with something missing.