Roles in the HomeBro. David Chancellor
6/21/2009 11:00 AM
Children, obey your parents in the Lord; for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
It’s important that the fathers fulfill their role in the family. God’s plan is for there to be mothers and fathers in the family. Each gives the child something that they’ll need for life.
Obey and honor your parents. When they get older, honor them by taking care of them.
"And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." Give some thought to raising children. You don’t want to raise angry children. A lot of children are growing up angry, and that’s sad. You don’t want to promote anger in your children, but to promote the nurture and admonition of God. (See Deuteronomy 6:6-7) You need the word of God in you. You need this to be able to teach your children. Nurture and admonition is taught by example. Teaching without practical demonstration isn’t effective.
All your children need to see what a father is. They need to know what a father is and what he brings to the home. A father should influence the children’s idea of what God is like. He should lead in the home and establish love there.
Ephesians 5:25-30, 32
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
Paul was trying to help them understand their relationship to Christ and his relationship to them. The man is to live a life of love to his wife. Marriage establishes a home and the man is to set forth the example of love. He should love his wife and his kids. His role is to be a model of what love is. His children need to know when they pray that God loves and cares for them as their father does. Children need to see how love works. The father should teach love and the mother should teach respect. Teach by example. The father should build a home where love is. It gives the children a foundation to stand on when facing the world.
Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.
Better is a little with love, than a feast without love. You can be happy as long as love is there. A home is what fathers should be trying to build. It should be a home where love is.
Differences of opinion will sometimes happen, but the leader of the home should be able to resolve them in love. The kids are watching and are forming an idea of what love is like by your actions. You need the love of God in the home.
A home with love is more like a team than anything else. Look for someone you can work with and be a team with. Learn to make decisions with the good of all in the house in mind. The "no" that sometimes has to be said, needs to be said in love and consideration.
Be able to work through differences in a reasonable and thoughtful way. Take time to discuss it privately, even if that means the outcome isn’t what you would have chosen, then. Do it differently the next time. Don’t fight in front of the kids; learn to work through it privately.
Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ: By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience; and experience, hope: And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.
The love of God should be manifested in troubles. Be patient in troubles. Problems will happen, but we still need to manifest love.
But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost, Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.
Work on building yourself in the Lord, continuing to pray and staying in the love of God. This is necessary to be the role model you need to be. Spend time with God. Life goes better when love is in the home.